Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Rectangular Shower Rod Diy

bullying and ... And yet ...

I was exhausted. That was over thirty years I worked in this business. I had reached the rank of supervisor. Then the new boss arrived, a young, dynamic, full of ideas. He imagined that I was uncomfortable, so he started to attack me. After months of insults, lies and humiliation, I was devastated. When I was asked to take early retirement, I accepted. "Peter.
PETER was harassed at work, or "mobbing", to borrow a term become common in Europe. In his country, Germany, an estimated 1.2 million workers suffer. In the Netherlands, 1 in 4 people will be faced at one time or another in his career. The International Labor Organization reports about it that this phenomenon is growing in Australia, Austria, Denmark, United States, Great Britain and Sweden. But what exactly is mobbing?

A "war of nerves"
The German magazine Focus defines mobbing as "Frequent attacks, repeated and systematic". More than just jokes among colleagues (teasing or practical jokes that sometimes turn to sarcasm and criticism), mobbing is a campaign of psychological terror. Objective: To exclude the victim's group.

Singles childish or offense punishable by law?
Harassment takes many forms. Victims should wipe slander, verbal abuse, aggression and indifference. Some are deliberately overloaded work or pay the price of the most consistently unpleasant ones that nobody wants to pay. Others see their productivity efforts undermined by colleagues who, for example, retain information voluntarily. It even happened that burst the tires of their car or that their computer hacker.
Sometimes the scapegoat is the target of a single persecutor. But mostly, it is under attack from a coalition of colleagues. The term "mobbing" is appropriate since it comes from the English "mob" which means "crowd".

isolated Stalker?
The most astonishing is that many cases of harassment occur with the consent of the owner. Some European studies show that the head of department plays an active role in 50% of cases. That was my case. Under orders from the CEO, Mrs L. This guy was trying to corner me in an isolated area during my lunch break. He made remarks of a sexual nature, up to tell me that my husband was a S ... When he could, he passed behind me, slipping his hand in my back, bending down close to my ear, I heard his breathing accelerate. Paralyzed I dared move. I spoke in the evening my husband advised me to place myself in front of the office of the HRD. What I did.

Tranquil just a moment
There, he came to see me, he was scared. HRD, surprised to see me at this place called me and questioned me about this change: What happens there, Marissa? You have a problem, we must say if so? How could I have spoken, I knew it was his word against mine and as strange as it sounds, people do not believe you. What was I next to him? A simple secretary ... His place was better than mine.

I also knew that the CEO gave him orders to push us to the end so that you resign. The liar said we all spoke English! Practicing Catholic, she has even announced that in a television program. Do not know it then, that liars will not inherit the kingdom of God?

The beast returns ...
When he saw that I would not give to his advances, he ended up treating me like a waste, screaming at me for nothing, or even more often for nothing. One day he invented a malpractice which I had not committed. I fought back, going so far as to share with the HRD, which has remained deaf to my cries for help. All accomplices? At the end, I gave my resignation the same day, she accepted without flinching. Later, I went to the police station to complain, but now the cops are damn my head Going up irony in their gestures that I was describing ... in 2004! I could barely make a handrail losing all my rights ... I was not all abandoned again.

effects outside the workplace
Often, the effects of harassment are being felt well beyond the walls of the enterprise. Many victims suffer serious health problems directly related to the cruelties they suffer. Include depression, sleep disorders or anxiety attacks. What about Peter, mentioned in the introduction? His self esteem has fallen below its doctor advised her to seek treatment at a specialist clinic. What had made this necessary care? Harassment at work. It can also cause harm to a marriage or family life.

Listening?
In Germany, the phenomenon has spread to the point that health insurance company has created a central hotline for victims. Position calls: up to six weeks absence from work for half of the victims, to three months for a third and beyond for more than 10%. A German medical journal, estimated that "up to 20% of suicides are due to mobbing. France does not care about this problem unless the employees, as in some companies end their lives.

The fair will they have justice?
Given the current situation I'm sure I'm not the only one, is not it? Obviously, harassment can make work a nightmare.
Is it possible to avoid it? How to maintain peaceful industrial relations?
And where does it begin?

Sunday, May 9, 2010

Denise Milani 2010 Despida



Before reading this post humor you had, for some of you noticed that I had removed. Changes were necessary. What is done. Happy reading .
For more than three years since I have met through my blog of a person who loved what I wrote. I thought so sincere and my thoughts on this issue had not changed until the day he showed me otherwise.

Enthouisiate and encouraging, it inspired me to start writing a book, I offer up the foreword to me unless I asked. Surprising! I did not know what to think and say: What did he want in return? I confess that the question crossed my mind. To son for days, weeks and months I was convinced it was a purely altruistic act ... beautiful quality that is so lacking in our days. But the time apart many ideals and shows you in broad daylight is the person in his deepest nature.

Partitioning a written ...
Sunset on paper the words of my woes is the outlet I needed. Better than all the therapists who will listen to fifty euros, writing lets me say what I want to say at specific times, without questioning from a third party. I like writing is undeniable. I have so much in my heart and in my mind that this is the best therapy that I insist. The words are scrambling on my lips as they are numerous, they all want to be taken first. So yes, the suggestion to create a story captivated me. Was I just there? The fear of not doing enough Well, not to be up chasing me at odds with the desire to get started.


Sonata for novice.
Sitting in front of my screen, the ideas come to me, I begin by making a map of each. Then my fingers glide endlessly on the keyboard, each letter words that give shape to life sentences. It's like a melody that soothes my ear, I played her. Run my fingers on my qwerty, the perfect piano juggling between my fingers and my imagination, piano crescendo out of my heart the first results of a chapter ... not unfinished melody.

From one end to another
YC (his initials) occasionally takes the temperature of my progress. JP, it is at the forefront, it helps me in my grammatical misunderstandings between the conditional and imperfect ... I am furious, I grumble against me is so obvious, why did I not pay attention ? Because you're in your story, your ideas you fly your grammar, they want you to register before the wind takes them. That's what I'm doing from one end to another of each chapter.

Chapter broken
Sometimes he calls me from his car, our discussions and vary over time we get to know each other. We speak with passion of the book is our motto. Then it becomes less and less. This annoys me, I always want to feel confident, to be reassured again and again. The rivers of our words flow like a different platform (especially in my case). The wavelength has already changed. A first storm appears, darkening our sky. He told me to practice what I disagree and I am afraid (not by ignorance but by exact knowledge) ... my blood missed a beat, my hands are trembling, suddenly I feel uncomfortable ... and my voice Indoor said sadly: Oh no not that! Later I will give my opinion and we do talk more.

Tear
How to tell him that my fear remains intact, I know that because of this practice that is passed under the aegis of science, we never occurs. This is the brake. Tear brutal and painful but real. He also tells his side on me, it does not stick, I understand that's his choice, mine too. Discomfort is felt on both sides, calls are fewer, our discussions are almost nonexistent. Referrals from our roads, our belief, that the departing train "friendship" that held us together I said goodbye, explaining the reason ... He gets angry. Accusatory, contemptuous limit on what I think he gets carried away in any mail limits odious ... that's not without pain.

And yet ... More
back? Only time will dira.Peu recognizing what I write here and elsewhere, never satisfied, 100% perfectionist, never satisfied, always wanting to put his bill, noting that what is negative, he proudly always wants to be right at the point of becoming unbearable. Not a "What is good writing! (What he said at the beginning). Where is he who spoke to me of my chapters? What happened to the one who showed compassion facing the illness of my husband? Pff ... Disappeared without leaving a forwarding address.
If vai it was me who told him "Goodbye", I expected him to read between the lines to understand that this was not a "Goodbye".

In the meantime I would like to dedicate this post mood because apart from my husband, with whom he conversed occasionally, I owe him for pushing me to write as well as reassured me and gave confidence to start and continue to put words on these virtual sheets which I hope for me and we will quickly become real.
Thanks Yves.
A big thank you to Jean-P, I love my husband, who despite his serious disease continues to support me in this great adventure.